Navigating Life Together – Trust
Good relationships are difficult but essential
Romans 12:10 Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.
There is no win in comparison
Over, under-react
Forgives is not passive, it prays for those who offend us
This generation would rather be cynical than naïve
I’m going assume bad motives, the worst, until you prove otherwise
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” CS Lewis
Matt. 7:1-2 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
Krino – to pass judgment, to sentence, decide
Krisis – hold a trial/ make a decision
Judges hand down sentences
Gen. 50:19-21 But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended (turned) it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.
I don’t get to be the judge… not my job
It’s not my job
Judges also gather information
Proverbs 18:17 The first to plead their case seems right, Until another comes and examines them
1 Corinthians 4:5 Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of people’s hearts; and then each persons’ praise will come to him from God.
There are motives that only God can see
We choose what we place in that gap
I can choose to fill the gaps with trust or suspicion
We are suspicious because of who we are.
We are suspicious because of what we see.
1 Cor. 13:7 (love) always trusts (NIV), believes all things (ESV)
Lead with Trust
Help me understand?
When there is a gap, I will choose to lead with trust
When trust is eroded, I will come directly to you
Help me understand
Lead with trust